OK, so last night one of my very good friends, Maryke, called. We talked for about 3 hours. At one stage I asked her the following question. Is it a sin when you’ve crossed your own boundaries?
Example: You set the boundary that you and a guy (or girl) will only stick to holding hands, but then you go a bit further and you kiss. (Sorry, it’s the most common example I could think of). OK, so now you’ve crossed the line (your own line anyway). Is it a sin or not?
Maryke said that maybe it’s not a sin, but just a failure to yourself. So she has a point. You did’nt do what you expected yourself to do, so you fail yourself. This sounds a bit confusing, but other words have left me. Now the line is crossed, there’s no turning back, no erasing what has happened. You’ve “sinned” against yourself, but the question remains, have you sinned against God?
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Maybe sometimes crossing our own boundaries can actually be God’s will, not “sin” but actually the opposite. We need boundaries, but is our boundaries cannot change, we how can we grow?
Example: How many honest young Christians set boundaries about which people they will “mix” with, but for many of us, we get to a point where we realize that to follow Jesus in this life, we need to cross that boundary.
So growing in faith and maturity (I’ll get back to you on that soon) may also involve crossing your own boundaries. It will hurt, for sure, but then again, God uses us in His plan. And I believe that He will never put us through anything that He thinks we can’t handle.
I think it depends on why you set the boundaries. If you set these boundaries becouse you think it would be sin, but in a moment of passion they are crossed then I would consider it sin. God may not usually considder it sin, but before crossing the boundary, you thougth it is sin, therefore you were in your own mind disregarding God. If it is just some boundary set, because you didn’t want to get hurt, for instance, then there’s no sin in crossing it, and it might even be a good thing.
Still if it was in fact sin God can still use that for your own good. All thing work together for good…